sometimes,

relationships become so much a part of us,
a relationship starts to become your i.d.e.n.t.i.t.y. before it happens, you always think you're above that (you're a thinking, rational person with your own opinions and i.n.d.i.v.i.d.u.a.l.i.t.y.). and when it does, it defines you in the best, most loving way.

"...oh he taught me to love him
and called me his flower
that was blooming to cheer him
through life's dreary hour
how i long to see him
and regret the dark hour
he's gone and neglected his pale wildwood flower"
"wildwood flower"
reese witherspoon,
walk the line