Communicating has become bigger and bigger. Everyone I meet is taking about it. Every conversation I'm part of has this element.
Why don't we speak the truth?
unashamed, unhesitant, unembarrassed.
Why sugar coat our words?
Why say half a statement and imply the other instead of saying the whole thing as you mean it?
Why make a statement a question because you don't want to make the other person feel "pressured"?
Why are we afraid of sounding/seeming too eager, too moved, too emotional?
Chamki, Surabhi and I talked about it last night; 'A' andI talk about it all the time. Naina and I talked about it today,this need to c.o.m.m.u.n.i.c.a.t.e. .s.i.m.p.l.y. what's going on inside you at any given point in time.
About just having the courage to say "please come for a walk with me." when you want them to, as opposed to:
"i'm going for a walk. do you want to come?"
"i'm going for a walk. you can come if you want to."
Enough of trying to look like it doesn't really matter to you. Or like you're only inviting them as an afterthought.
This constant p.u.t.t.i.n.g. .u.p. .o.f. .l.i.t.t.l.e. .f.a.c.e.s. to accommodate the other person, devalue your needs, pretending is unnecessary and painful. We regret and continue doing it.
We are hurt or disappointed when they don't jump up to take a walk with us.
Why should we create the circumstances for our own disappointments!?
Why should we half say and half imply, have ask and half imply?
Why not stick to clarity, why settle for ambiguous hesitancy?
From today, let's all just ask when it really is a question:
when we really want to know whether they would like to take a walk with us;
and state when we have a request.
Let us not constantly confuse the two. and confuse the other.
Asking when we mean to request.